How are you?

You don't get to choose how you're going to di...

Well, how are you there? 🙂

How many times do you ask people this during a regular day? And do you ever take the time to listen for the answer?

I know, it is just a way of saying hello, really. It doesn’t require an answer. So when people answers, it sort of takes away focus from what you were really going to say. Being a “foreigner” I always try to think of something to answer, like “I’m fine, we had a wonderful holiday and everyone is healthy”.

Just before the weekend, I bumped into one of my British colleagues, and went like “Hi! How are you? It’s been so long.” And he started talking about his cancer.

I knew he had been away for some time, and he has had cancer before. Didn’t know he was getting worse again.

The thing is, when you ask a smiling happy question, you don’t expect other answers than the happy smiling ones. And you are not prepared for anything else.

I think he appreciated that I took time to listen. It reminded that I should always be prepared to care.

Hope you have the opportunity to show someone that YOU care today 🙂

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2 thoughts on “How are you?

  1. What a lovely little insight into the unexpected turns that our little social rituals can take. It’s nice that you asked ‘How are you?’ and your friend really thought you meant it. You probably communicate empathy better than you even realise. 🙂 Thank you for sharing.

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